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These past few days, a woman Member of Parliament sparked a debate about why men in Juba marry an uneducated woman and leave educated women; it has been an internet sensation, with both sides hitting each other hard. Sure, it is not an easy thing to get married in South Sudan recently. Not only are there educated girls, but there are thousands of single mothers roaming Juba streets due to severe temporal factors. Not to mention, to marry in South Sudan, I observe these two main challenging factors: discipline and pockets.
If
I have or survive on average pockets, why should I marry a woman whose parents
expect me to refund their educational responsibility they incurred for their daughter?
While the world sees the education of the girl child as a right and a
responsibility, our South Sudanese parents see it as a burden and therefore
must be compensated to refund their lost assets invested in the girls. This
burden is shifted onto the man in the form of dowry, leading to exorbitant
leakage in the man's wallet. Due to this, men opt to marry an uneducated girl
whose dowry fits their pocket sizes.
Another
serious issue is discipline. A man is a man; no man will wish to marry a woman
who always threatens him with separation, divorce, her family matters, and,
above all, strictness of time. Uneducated women appear to be innocent when
discipline is a matter. African men desire total freedom as the head of the
house and home. A man wants a woman who supports him even when he does not. However,
the majority of educated women lack such restraints and hence are left to meet
their own calibre. The reason we have
many single, educated mothers in South Sudan is due to their unreasonable
demands and irresponsible rights without duties.
Until we understand the biblical importance of marriage, many educated women in South Sudan will stay single or marry to become single mothers. Parents should learn to be pocket-friendly to their sons-in-law, and girls should lower their educational violence to simplicity if marriage must be sustained. If nothing is done, marrying uneducated women will continue to be the best option, or they will switch to international marriage.
WADAK MING, WAMITO NYOME
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